Wow, it's crazy how much your life can change in such a short time!
And, sometimes its still hard to wrap my mind around how I went
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Monday evening, July 9th, Austin and I were at our neighbors' apartment, when I started getting really intense back pains. I'd had similar back pains the night before, so I attributed these to more "false labor" pains. I'd had so much "false labor" in the previous two weeks, that I was convinced I would never actually give birth...I'd be pregnant with this same baby for the rest of my life. Thankfully, that wasn't the case :) Well, as the night progressed, so did my pain. In-between turns during games, I would pace around, massage a tennis ball into my lower back, and move in contorted positions -- anything to alleviate the pain. And yet, nothing was working.
After we went home, we decided to entertain the idea of timing my pains. I didn't know if they were contractions or not, but as the pains became more intense, there was definitely a pattern...so yup, they became contractions. Around 10pm I called the maternity ward in the Madison Memorial Hospital, and they advised me to not come in until the contractions were 2-3 minutes long and 5-7 minutes apart. Wellll, as the night progressed, the contractions got worse and longer. I was still hesitant to actually think I was going into labor, due to so many false labor pains, so we decided to just go to bed -- with the hopes that the pains would simply subside, like all previous pains. Heh, well, the pains didn't subside and around midnight on July 10th, we went to the hospital.
Upon entering the Labor/Delivery Unit at the hospital, I was checked for dilation and told that I was 5 centimeters dilated and 100% effaced. I was officially in labor!! WAHOO! No more false labor pains!! :) We were SO excited :) Heh, now I just needed to get an epidural ASAP -- the pain was almost more than I could bare. I'd always heard about contraction pains in your abdominal area, but these pains were all in my back...and they were wretched. It didn't help that I have next to no pain tolerance -- I'm not sure how I would have survived in the Middle Ages.
Soon after being checked for dilation, I was taken to the room that I would labor and deliver in -- and then the wonderful anesthesiologist entered the room. Honestly, the scariest part about giving birth was the epidural... The anesthesiologist told me how the procedure was going to work, and then told me that I COULDN'T MOVE until she finished the procedure. If I moved, I might accidentally jiggle the needle, which could cause anything from a pinched nerve to paralysis. I'm already a bit afraid of needles, so the thought of paralysis made the entire procedure even more terrifying.
So, while I squeezed Austin's hand for dear life and focused on a speck of dirt on the floor, I arched my back and tried to bite back any cries of pain or flinches. Even though one of my life goals is to be cheerful to nurses, doctors, cashiers, etc., I couldn't help but snarl as the anesthesiologist kept telling me to "not move." However, as soon as she finished inserting the tube into the epidural space, which took two tries, the pain relief was almost instantaneous :) It felt heavenly. I really admire those women that want to have natural child birth, but, heh, I am not one of those women -- pain meds all the way!! :) Although, I learned, first hand, that epidurals don't always last equally throughout your body. My right side stayed completely numb the entire time, while my left side had to be re-numbed twice. Ahh well, it was still worth it.
By then it was around 2am and I was feeling wonderful :) Austin and I tried to get some shut-eye, since the upcoming hours were going to be pretty eventful -- but, it's a bit hard to sleep when you know that your life is about to drastically change in the very near future. After two hours of attempted sleep, we decided to pop in "The Sound of Music" -- I was determined to have my child born to the sounds of a musical. If I wanted to have a future singer in my family, I gotta start her young :) However, "The Sound of Music" really isn't the most comical musical, and labor is definitely a time that I needed some comedy -- thank goodness we brought "White Christmas" :) And, thank goodness I married a man who will tolerate my love for musicals.
Long story short, since I tend to ramble, around 5:30am my labor/delivery nurse instructed me to start pushing... AND, at 6:10am, Arlee Jean Ballard made her debut! She weighed in at 7 lbs 6 oz and 20 inches long. She was (and IS) absolutely beautiful :) One of the first things Austin said upon seeing her was, "She looks like a skinless chicken!" Hahaha, that wasn't exactly what I was expecting to hear.
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| Being weighed and measured after making her debut |
Hahaha, I can only imagine how babies must feel when they leave the womb and enter this great big world. Suddenly, they're pushed out of their warm, tight, noisy home into a cold, spacious, quiet home -- it must be quite the shock to their little senses. This being the case, its no wonder that little Arlee slept almost the entire day and night of her first day of life -- I bet she needed to re-cooperate after the terrifying experience of birth.
We stayed in the hospital until Thursday, July 12th, and the nurses were a big help as we started to adjust to our new roles as parents. And, surprisingly, both the labor/delivery room and the recovery room, had a little area for Austin to sleep.
Below are more pictures of our beautiful girl :)
Austin is such a wonderful dad :) As soon as we found out that we were having a little girl, she had her daddy wrapped around her finger. I'm so glad that I married such a patient and loving man, and I know that Arlee will always be "Daddy's Little Girl." So far, Austin has crazy good skills at making her burp -- I'm slacking in that department. And, at the end of the day when I'm feeling a bit frazzled and can't make Arlee settle down, Daddy is always able to save the day :)
Grandma Wendi and Grandpa Dan came to meet Arlee the day she was born. I don't think I've ever heard and seen Grandpa Dan make such hilarious noise and faces as he talked to his grand-daughter. Hilarious :)
Nana has been such a great help to us these past few weeks as we've adjusted to parenthood. She's been especially helpful at 3am, when both parents are exhausted beyond all reason and need to sleep. It's been so much fun watching her cuddle and love Arlee.
Our little family :)
We just can't get enough of her!
Even from birth to 3 weeks, her face has already changed so much. She's lost the swollen/puffy look, and is starting to develop more of her own features. Luckily, she didn't come out of the womb looking like an alien :) No forceps or vacuum were used to help her out.
Ohh, and PS: I learned that your puking muscles are the same as your pushing muscles. After about 20 minutes of pushing, my body was exhausted and I'd never felt so much physical exertion in my life...so, my body decided that now was a fine time to start dry-heaving. Well, after about 12 dry-heaves, she was almost out. I've never been so grateful for my puking reflex, hahaha :)
See? Here is proof of Daddy's crazy good burping skills. No joke, he has the magic touch. Or, he at least knows how to bounce her enough that burps just decide to appear.
Look at that little pose! Nap time is happy time :) And, I've learned that if I ever want to be a fully-functional human being again, I need to sleep when she sleeps. So, I take at least one nap every day :) *sigh* I wish there was such a thing for sleep called "roll over minutes." If so, I could have stocked up on sleep while I was pregnant.
About 4 weeks before my due date, my feet and ankles suddenly decided to swell up. Heh, I thought it was bad then... But then I gave birth and my feet/ankles swelled up to enormous proportions. It was ridiculous. It got to the point where I couldn't even put on my widest flip-flops, and sneakers were far from an option. After about two weeks of propping up my feet and lots of fluids, my elephantiasis started to go down.
Isn't that ridiculous?! I also had swelling in my face and fingers. I'm still waiting for the swelling in my fingers to go down so I can wear my wedding ring again. Honestly, I have no idea why the human body decides to retain water at the end of pregnancy. I mean, aren't pregnant women big enough already?? I think adding excess water weight and swelling just isn't fair.
Here she is, at four days old :)
Four generations! Great-Grandma, Grandma Wendi, Austin, and Arlee :) And, I think Arlee got all her looks (especially her blonde hair) from the Ballard side. Even though I carried her for 9 months, she looks completely like Austin's side. However, her screaming capacity shows us that she inherited my strong lungs :)
A future gymnast? I think she's having lots of fun learning what this body can do, now that its not squished inside Mom's tummy.
2 1/2 weeks old! I just can't get enough of that little face! And, I've decided that babies only need a diaper and a swaddling blanket in order to be happy, especially if you don't have A/C in your apartment. I think onesies are a luxury to be worn outside the home :)
Her little feet pack a powerful punch! I think my ribs are still bruised after all her kicking.
For whatever reason, Arlee loves to sleep with her arms flung out behind her head. If we swaddle her like that, she tends to sleep longer and more deeply. Silly girl :)
See? The swelling is completely gone! She almost looks like a different baby, when compared to her first few days of life. And, somewhere between two and three weeks, she suddenly decided to open her eyes all the time -- our little girl has beautiful midnight blue eyes.
3 weeks old! She loves to just look around and soak-in the world around her. After her diaper is changed and her tummy is full, she'll contently sit in her bouncer or cuddle in your lap and just look around.We call this her "quiet time." And, then we wait for her to fall asleep...or start screaming for more food. Sometimes, she can be quite demanding :)
Even though hammocks are the closest equivalents to adult baby swings, real baby
swings are far better :) Look how comfy she is! If I could be rocked to
sleep in a motorized swing, while listening to running water, my life
would be complete.
Waking up at 2am is so worth it when she just wants to cuddle with her Mommy :)
I've always been told that it takes your brain 21 days to adjust to a new life event or form a new habit, and wow, that is so true. Little Arlee Jean is now 3 weeks and 1 day old, and I'm starting to feel more confident and able to take care of her -- I'm no longer thinking, "Oh my gosh. I have a baby. How did this happen? What do I do? Do I want to do this?" Now I'm thinking, "Okay, I can do this. I'll learn how to function on 5 hours of sleep per night. She's worth it."
Having Arlee in our home is like having a little piece of heaven with us. She has such a sweet little spirit, and its amazing to think that a mere three weeks ago she was in our Heavenly Home with God the Father and His Son, Jesus Christ. I know that the veil over her eyes is still very thin, and sometimes, especially in the evenings, she'll look up at the ceiling and start to smile. I always wonder who she's seeing -- maybe a sibling that will come down to Earth in the future or an ancestor that has passed on before? Either way, I know that she sees someone watching over her from up above.
That's all for now. And, kudos to anyone still reading this -- you just read a novel! :)